It’s not the weight, it’s how long you hold it

I heard this on the radio this morning:

A teacher stands in front of his class one morning and asks his class, “How much does this glass of water weigh?”

The class looks around at each other and gives varying responses to which the teacher nods and responds, “All possible answers, but what would happen if I held this glass for 1 minute? It doesn’t weigh much right? What if I held it for an hour? I’d get very tired…now what if I held it for a whole day? I’d probably need to go to the hospital later on. The glass weighs the same regardless of how long I hold it, it’s the length of time I hold onto it that makes it more difficult for me to bear. In life, stress is not about the amount you’re under, it’s about how long you hold onto it. You need to take a break; set it down from time to time.”

I felt amazed reading this, I hope it helps you too!


Dr. Angelou

Maya Angelou Best Sayings and Quotes, wise, deep

This sums up how i’m feeling. A day after and I’m still choked up over her passing. I don’t know why or what it is, but something deep down in me stirred yesterday morning when I read the news. All throughout the day there were quotes and people commenting on it. I usually see a post about someone’s passing and I nod and say my condolences out of respect for the life that person led, but when I saw this…something in me got turned around. It seemed like the whole world felt this one, even the afternoon sky had a faint, reddish hue and I immediately thought that so many were crying or reflecting right on what happened.

If you have a story to tell, something you’re not writing, something you forgot to tell somebody. Now might be the time. Forgive what people did to you, forgive yourself for allowing it and please seek to move forward. Just yesterday someone turned 80 years old, just yesterday someone passed on…


It’s not luck, it’s something much deeper

Hey Folks,

I found this online and thought you’d really enjoy it. A lot has been happening on my end and it’s always a pleasure when I can help someone or post something that touches the hearts of my readers. I hope this one really touches yours and you realize that it isn’t just luck, it’s your own talent that’s pushing you through. Luck is unreliable, but your talents, abilities to change and adapt, to grow and  to function are indispensable. If you’re attributing much of your life to luck, think again, you may have earned way more than you’re giving yourself credit. Every bit of the struggles you’ve endured are valid, don’t allow anyone’s opinions or social expectations to cause you to think any less of what you are…



Lovely logics to keep you going


Sometimes the road is long and hard, but I’ve found that if I take a moment to rekindle my fire it helps. I’m trying to do that today before I get into another busy week. This past week was rough so I’m making sure I take this time to nourish the parts of me that are most important.



Your health kick right here

Hey folks,

For everyone on their nutrition and fitness journey, here is your kick to motivate you to move forward. I’m a little raw and I may have hurt some feelings, but maybe that needed to happen for you to push forward.

I wish everyone well and hope you stay on your journey.



Fear talk

Never let your fear become your reality and your reality your fear.

I know right? At least I think I know that…sure it’s easy to read it and repeat it, but to actually repeat it in my life can seem daunting. What about you? Do you struggle with fear reader? Do you have trouble with really applying the quote above? Ok…check this, I’m gonna explain a brief story to you and you tell me if it can work for you.

Life has been tough these past two years, and there are times where the fear of unemployment, starving and not having anything to eat, losing my home and my health are all very real possibilities for me. I’ve had to struggle through some of those and I’m very privileged and blessed to be able to write this blog and know that you’re reading it. So before I continue…Thank you 😉

Let me continue…Whenever I think about making a post on the blog, when I submit my pay sheet, when I pick up the phone or go to check emails, if I pray, if I write and try to express myself or when I have conversations with certain people, there’s this lingering fear in the back of my mind that tugs on my collar and tells me to be careful, to be ready for the worst. I’ve written before about fear, fear is very real and we have to learn to work with it, or it’ll work on us instead of through us. However, the fear I’m referring to this time is the kind of fear that grips you by the collar and leaves this feeling in your chest, this tightness, this discomfort that makes you feel like you’ve held your breath, waiting for something to hit. Many times, I’ve realized that the feeling goes away after I’ve uncovered it. So how do I deal with it when it comes on?

I can’t tell you a 1 or 10 step process to overcoming this kind of fear, this is something you have to get good at doing. I won’t lie to you, nor am I trying to sell you something or take anything from you. I’ll say this instead: Fear is very real, it’s apart of us and it won’t fully go away. How you react to fear, how much of it you allow to control and impact your life, and what you do while feeling fearful are what matter the most. Many times I’ve walked forward while feeling fearful and realized there’s nothing there. There’s no boogeyman under the bed, there’s no guy hiding in my closet (Thank God!). What’s there is a lingering feeling, like a stench that just never dissipated, but it still fills your nostrils and your mind with old memories. Wherever you picked up that scent of fear, it comes around you when you’re near to whatever triggered it in the first place, and I remind myself that what happened “then” doesn’t have to happen now. This is a new day, things are different now, I’m so much more and so much more different than I was yesterday, 2 months ago, 2 years ago.

So reader, my message to you is to walk through your fear, uncover your dark places and let that scent of fear drift away for the time being. I can’t tell you you’ll never feel fear that would be unfair to you, but I will say that you have the ability every single time that fear grips you and leaves  you feeling tight to loosen that grip, to breathe and make a decision on how to behave. Sometimes, you’re afraid and what you’re afraid of will happen, but 99% of the time, many of the moments I’ve been afraid of haven’t happened. Be wise, but avoid allowing fear to contort your mind and behavior.

Thanks for reading 🙂


The real failure is when…


Hey folks,

I hope you’re doing well and overcoming your challenges. If not, this post is for you! Many times we’re tempted to give up after a failure, but let’s think about being a “failure” and what it really means to fail as a learning experience. Failure is always an option, failure is very real and always present in all that we do, however, being a failure is a mindset, it’s a decision you make and a habit you’ve decided to follow. You can fail, feel that it’s a part of your success, call it a learning experience and get back up and try again, or you can fail, call yourself a failure, believe all the lies in your head, and tell yourself it’s time to give up on what you believe in,  that it’s time to give up on that relationship, that workout goal, that life you’re trying to create.

When you stop trying to be what you’re created to be, I feel like you’ve become a failure. When you give up on what you are in order to appease someone else, you become a failure, when fear and doubt tell you that you can’t and you agree and go along with that, then you’ve really become a failure. Don’t fail in this way. Many times my fear and doubt have tried to trick me into believing things that aren’t really there and I’m tempted to believe the lies and toxic beliefs of people around me, but I’ve developed a habit of asking fear, doubt and thoughts of being a failure to go somewhere else. There’s always an opportunity to fail, because yes, things are challenging, but failing doesn’t make you a failure, remember this…

Have I failed ? Oh Of course, I fail all the time, but those are learning experiences, and I know I’m not a failure just because I’ve had a rough life, or a rough experience. In order for me to succeed I have to keep striving for it, so reader, you have to keep striving for whatever you want. Remain who you are, remain faithful to what you are and don’t deliberate or allow people, or beliefs to steer you away from what you know in your heart is right for you.




Yo !

I hope you’re doing as well as I am after a long week. I can’t begin to speak about the challenges of the past 2 weeks, but what I can say is that I’ve learned that when trouble hits, you can’t allow the storm on the outside to get on the inside and disturb your inner peace. Peace is powerful man, if you don’t have any, seek and you’ll find it with time. Otherwise, here’s a really neat video that will get you through this week:


Enjoy, share and like the video, it’s fantastic and I hope it pushes you forward.

Fail in order to succeed


Fall down 7 times, get up 8, whatever it takes don’t hesitate. Stay strong folks, your time is coming. Failure is a part of your success 😉


What I tell myself

Sensei said it first. I’ll say it again. When thoughts of doubt, depression and negativity creep in…from wherever they came from. I refuse to stay down. No rest, no mercy, gotta keep moving forward.